When Beauty Is Only Upholstery Deep

Shay from CO writes:

We know better than to judge people by their outer appearances; but what are your thoughts on furniture? seriously - I'm having a hard time with this.

Hey Shay, thanks for writing.

Your question dives deep into the heart of an age old issue: attraction versus satisfaction.

It is simple for one to say, "You can't judge a book by it's cover." And leave it at that... but, although the truth of this statement has been proven over and over again by countless students, librarians and bibliophiles... we cannot simply discredit the merits of being visually stimulated by our sources of comfort.

We connect ourselves to things that peak our interest. The earliest opportunity to be interested in something... is at first sight.

To walk into a room and have your eyes be immediately drawn to a thing of beauty, is a huge step toward exploring everything that beauty has to offer. From there, the future of that connection is either perpetuated or severed. But if there is no initial interest, anything beyond... is simply fantasy, speculation, or N/A.

So, there are some things to keep in mind when considering the future of your arrangement.

How does it make you feel?
Is it soft and comforting? Or rough and abrasive?
Do you feel secure when lying between it's arms?
Do you feel as though you are suspended from the ground when you are together? Or do you feel inches from crashing to the hard reality of the floor?

As shallow as it sounds, age is also an issue.

There is something to be said about living in the moment, but do you see yourself at peace there for years to come? Or will you, right as you learn to love and respect the home you've made, walk in one day and find it lying there with a broken leg... leaving you having to seek out alternate ways of supporting it, and ultimately yourself?

Yes, it's nice to have one that your friends comment on the beauty of everytime you're all together. And it's nice to be with one that always provokes interesting conversation. But when it's all said and done, and you're alone together in your apartment... will you find yourself resting in it's softness, content? Or will your mind be wandering all the while looking and wondering and longing for another?

Thanks for your question Shay, hope this helps.